Month: December 2021

The most crucial talent you can have is the ability to stay connected with your true self. When you know who you are, you know what you need to do, and there’s no need to seek validation from others. It helps you to avoid a lot of the frustration that comes from wasting time on the wrong things. Yes, life is intended to be full of mistakes, but staying connected with yourself allows you to focus on the great opportunities that life has to offer. You will gain confidence, understand your purpose, and begin to have a greater effect on the world only after you have a better understanding of yourself.

So how can you know how to build that level of connection with yourself? Here are the five ways that are well worth your time to read.

1. Discover yourself 

The herd mentality is something that most people succumb to. Some people end up doing nothing but following the crowd. Make a list of things you actually enjoy; if something doesn’t thrill you, don’t do it.

2. Get to the root cause of the problem

Problems, upsets and sadness are lower vibrations; look for the underlying reason and go toward the source, not just the event that brought you there. If you’re feeling low or helpless, go back to the initial memory and identify the source. Treat the root of the problem rather than the symptom.

3. Love and compassion are the key players

You can’t and won’t connect with yourself unless you take the time to love yourself. We might be harsh with ourselves when we haven’t been able to accomplish something. We are not deserving of the hatred we heap on ourselves. Try to love yourself the most and be compassionate towards everything. The world will be a better place if we are kind and sensitive.

4. Let go of your past

To go on, you must entirely let go of the past. It will simply keep you stuck, trapping you in a vicious circle. Accept, heal, and do not let the past interfere in the present. However, preserve what you’ve learned in the past and look forward to what the future brings. The past will remain a burden unless you heal from it.

5. Don’t get influenced easily

Know that you won’t be able to genuinely connect with yourself unless you stop allowing others to influence your emotions. Don’t hand over your power to anyone. Listen to others to learn something new, but don’t be swayed from your intentions. Listen to what they have to say, don’t resist, make an informed decision for yourself, and choose something fresh from a variety of sources.

Only by evaluating yourself and being absolutely honest with yourself will you be able to see every facet of your life, connecting you to your inner soul.

When you connect to your inner power, everything starts aligning for you. Let me exemplify this in an interesting way. I was recently watching the movie Mission Mangal (again!) and I began drawing parallels between the evolution of the characters and the concept of connecting with one’s inner power. Your inner self is a powerhouse of energy. Most of us go through life without realising it. We look at others for inspiration and positivity, whereas it is right within us (in huge quantities) all the time. Once you connect with this inner self, you have instant access to its immense power, and everything in your life automatically starts aligning with your vision. That’s what is shown in Mission Mangal, too. Mission Mangal is my favourite movie for three reasons:

• It talks about connecting with who you really are
• It makes me feel proud as a Bharatiya
• Vidya Balan!

When people ask me why something is not working out for them or why they are feeling stuck, my solution is always self work.

Aligning with the Self

This movie inspired me for something different. Mission Mangal is a lesson in history for us, both as Bhartiyas and as human beings.

All the major characters in the film are scientists who are dedicated to the idea of making a spaceship, which will be India’s research vehicle to Mars. These characters are brilliantly executed by the actors playing them. A space mission to Mars is not a joke, especially for a country like Bharat. So, obviously there are plenty of challenges on their path. But what is interesting about the way the narrative of the movie flows is that each of the scientists is also facing challenges in their personal lives.

As scientists, they have the capacity to innovate and to even think of creating something impossible. They have the power to create something out of nothing. Once they decide to dedicate themselves to this mission, everything in their personal lives starts aligning, too. Science is their passion. As they align to their passion with a single-minded purpose of reaching Mars, their entire life transforms. The Universe rushes to their support, and family, friends and the whole nation follow suit.

For instance, Neha Siddiqui, the character played by Kirti Kulhari, is beset with issues. Her husband leaves her for another woman, she has been asked to move out of her dorm due to her religion, and her work is a limbo as the status of the mission is not confirmed by higher authorities. She is seen in a victim mode. But with the help of colleague Ananth Iyengar (played by H G Dattatreya) she stands up against her cheating husband and finds another and a much better living arrangement. Once she is connected with her true self, and she is able to rely on her own power, she stops feeling powerless. Her victim role ends there.

Your life can be exactly like this movie. Don’t lose yourself over anything or anyone. Hold on to your inner self, your true self. Work towards your passion. I am lucky that I love my work; it is my number one passion; it is not just a way of earning money to me but a way to connect to who I am. But if you are not, find something to be passionate about. It need not only be work. It could be a hobby or social work.

When something goes wrong in my life or things don’t fall in place as they should, I ponder over what lessons have I missed learning. It is learning that makes us go through experiences. Unless you learn your lesson, the experiences will keep coming back.

We all have things we love to do, things we do because we are passionate about them. These are the things that help align our world. I am not suggesting that we ignore things that are not going our way or be stubborn about moving forward. Meet the challenges in your life with your inner power. When you are truly connected with your inner self, the rest of the world takes appropriate action to align with you.

Are you ready to channelise your inner power?