Read on to know how you can strike a balance and make peace in a troubled
relationship.
The key to establishing a good relationship, in which both partners feel comfortable and
supported, is to know how to maintain balance. If you want to live a happy and stress-free
life, you need a healthy connection. A relationship’s early stages are filled with butterflies,
roses, and quiet moments together. Partners are frequently madly in love with one another,
devoting everything they have to the connection. It doesn’t take long, though, for one spouse to become overwhelmed and burnt out. The truth is that a love relationship is more than just mushy texts, dinner dates and movie nights.
Relationships are often difficult and frightening to understand, especially when writing or advising about them. Well, a lot relies on your perspective and upbringing, both of which have multiple layers of natural ways of dealing with a romantic connection or partnership. Security, protection and someone who will provide are all qualities that women look for in a man. That’s natural, but if the partner (men) can’t manage any of the above, the dynamics alter, and the downward spiral begins with blames and complaints, and it simply keeps piling up.
As I’ve always said, love is unconditional, but relationships require a balance of give and take. To find security in a spouse, my advice is to go within yourself for the source of your insecurity. So that it can be healed, and you don’t have to force your spouse to give you since, as we all know, he has his own problems. The same may be said for providing and protecting. In an ideal world, it would be reasonable to expect these things, but as I often say, your vibration will attract a man for you, and he will not do anything to help you learn your lessons.
So, dear women, go to the source of the problem. Return to your youth and observe what happened; you’ll find the majority of your answers there.
What do men want?
Men desire, or rather require, a woman who essentially serves as a buffer between them and the rest of the world. They already have a lot of pressure to give and be at a certain level of society, so they need some breathing room. If your girlfriend isn’t doing this, it’s time to consider what happened in your childhood, as well as your connection with your mother. Every male will look for a replica of his mother, while every woman will seek out a replica of her father. Yes, you do it, whether you realise it or not. You need to stop doing this so that you can find a fit for yourself instead of settling into a comfortable expectation zone.
Learn how to start a new life afresh. Don’t keep the old because you will never be satisfied with it, because old wounds tend to recur more frequently than joyful memories. It’s all about taking notes.
Fortunately, there is a way to deal with a relationship’s conflicting expectations. For example, the way any two people fold towels will almost certainly differ, but does this mean that one of the methods is incorrect? Obviously not. Expectations with no appreciation leads to nagging, which leads to frustration. Consider the issues you and your partner have battled about. How many of these quarrels are really over something significant? Have any of them come up with a viable solution? The likelihood is that the answer is no. So why not devote your time to something that is both useful and beneficial to the strength and durability of your relationship.
Be honest with yourself and approach your life with wisdom.