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How I faced my mother’s death

Grappling with the death of a loved one, dealing with the grief and loneliness that ensues – we all have to brave it at some point in our lives. Here I am sharing my journey with you, hoping it would help you in your time of need.

Death is a subject that many of us—possibly all—are afraid of. Recently, my favourite person in the whole world, and a best friend to many, left her mortal coil and moved on to a higher realm. My mum. And I had to deal with it. 

She and I shared a fascinating mother-daughter relationship, and she used to tell me she was especially lucky to have me (and very few people know this). 

So, what did her physical departure from my life teach me? Is it about retaining your strength? Is it causing you to become more engaged at work? Is it related to crying? Is it the lack of crying? Does it involve talking on the phone with others? 

Move on with your life is the most ridiculous advice that I have received so far. Well, many people told me to do this. How does one really move on? I don’t know how, and I don’t think there is anyone who can teach you this. So, instead of ‘moving on,’ I decided to practise acceptance. I came to terms with the notion that I will not be able to see, embrace, kiss or hear her.

What followed was a phase of self-doubt. What to do with myself and my time, since I am an only child and have lived with my mother literally all of my life. 

I also had to accept the departure of several people from my life who were solely there because of my mother – because she was their support system, she stood rock solid for them, she had their back. Although these people will look up to me to fill in her shoes and give them support, I won’t be able to do that. I am not my mother and I very humbly accept the fact that I might not hear from them ever again. 

Tears and emotions will continue to interrupt my routine as much as her ideas and teachings will continue to guide me. The void she has left will remain and I have no intention of filling it up with inane hobbies or idle talks with wellwishers. Instead I wish to flow in and out of this void with the courage she has instilled in me, and each time come out of it with acceptance and peace. When the entanglement dissolves, this void will become my source of love, strength and knowledge. 

As a Family Constellation facilitator, I clearly see our roles – hers and mine – in the larger scheme of life. My mother always said that her daughter was destined for greatness. Her belief in me has been the greatest accomplishment of my life.

The best shraddhanjali I can give her is to live my life in her honour. After all, I am my mother’s daughter, and in death as in life, I shall always honour her.

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Life of a Coach (part2)

Introduction:

People learn in a variety of ways and through various means. One method is to seek advice from role models who are generally successful in their lives. Life coaching primarily assists people in understanding and thinking differently. Its main goal is to allow the person receiving coaching to discover for himself what is beneficial to his or her development. 

  1. Why did you decide to be a coach? 

I never intended to become a coach. For me, it was more of a happening. Maybe it’s because I’ve always been empathetic to people since I was a child. Understanding people and attempting to find the root cause of any problem was a tendency or perhaps a way for me to deal with problems in my life.

  1. What are the pros and cons of being a life coach?

There are no advantages to being a coach because a coach will never think this way. I realised it when I was able to detach myself from my people and address the same situation to offer direction or help with my set of understanding to my group of students. A coach can only function as a coach when he or she is completely wise. I never gave my students solutions; instead, I have always believed that they must find their own solutions. I hold them, love them, and care for them, but I never try to rescue them or tell them what is right or wrong. Because there is no such thing as right or wrong. It’s all about learning your lessons and progressing.

  1. Describe your journey as a life coach?

My journey began as a teacher and has now evolved into that of a coach. My basic personality was solution-oriented rather than direction-oriented. This is not my path, I realised. It is not necessary to have your student achieve a perfect score of 100 on 100. But being with them as they form into who they are.

  1. Key lessons that you have learned?

Lessons I’ve learned include the fact that everyone has their own set of karmas and that everyone will choose based on their frequency. I’ve never really boosted anyone or asked for one-on-one coaching. It has always been more of a personal communication, and they have chosen to work on a specific topic with us.

Conclusion:

As a coach, you really don’t do anything – if you do, you lose your position as a coach. Simply provide a safe space for your people to evolve. The same way you feel when you’re with your parents.

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Spiritual shopping and Maya

Spirituality is not any different from our existence.

To put it simply, spirituality means being connected with our true nature – connecting to ‘Who am I ‘.

Then why all this confusion over being spiritual or non-spiritual? 

Very often people claim with a sense of superiority,   that they follow spirituality. This is not spirituality but just a subtler way of boosting one’s ego. Our basic nature is spiritual. In fact  following spiritual practices should be a natural part of our daily routine – as simple as  having food.

In the so called quest for spirituality people go through a crazy process,  attending all sorts of workshops or ‘trainings’ that they come across. 

The search for one’s Self is a part of the journey,  but  most of the time in this entire process people lose sight of their destination and It is important to understand that the spiritual journey is all about peeling off layers of karmas and one needs to make the distinction between the real thing versus illusions created by attending various dubious therapies. Lack of understanding of this point leads to  stopping of the practices and landing back in square one, maybe even with added karma baggage. 

One needs to realise that all of us are already on this journey and it is very important to stay with oneself and not get influenced.

There is a difference between being influenced and having and following a coach, a guide or a living Guru or Master in physical form.

Consistent and committed practice is of utmost importance and  constant self-awareness while practicing is the key. One will meet diverse people and different teachers on this journey, but staying grounded on the path  with awareness and not getting deviated is preferable. 

People who apparently don’t practice spirituality are busy judging people who are, or at least claim to be, on the path. It is expected that such judgements will happen  and sometimes people who are following certain practices may be elevated to Angelic or Godly status by others. It is funny that nobody gives one freedom to continue shedding one’s karmic baggage.

The judgements people make are rooted on their hurts, and projected onto you. Honestly these judgements have nothing to do with you – but this only highlights the fact of how much these  people  are in need of direction towards working on themselves.

Your critics do a great service of mirroring you and indicating to you how much you have healed and how much healing is still required by you.

Keep it simple and real.

Spirituality is a way of living…. as natural as breathing.

Breathe with a smile

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The beauty of Kashmir and understanding the Victim- Perpetrator energies

Recently I visited one of the most beautiful places in India,  rather, on Earth – Kashmir. This was my fourth trip to this lovely place and feels like home with every visit. Whether it is the Himalayan ranges,  Nature in her full splendor, or the pure clean atmosphere – I just soak in the wonderful energies of this place.

This time my trip was as an observer and not as a tourist. I realized that Kashmir has tremendous healing powers but at the same time needs a lot of healing too. A lot has happened on this land. On the etheric level, several Rishis and enlightened Master’s are still showering their blessings on this land.

Everything depends on how one looks at Kashmir – from the point of view or with the energy of the victim or of the perpetrator. In the Family Constellation session, the dynamics between the victim and the perpetrator are very interesting. Each one cannot exist without the other and they keep manifesting these energies. This ultimately shows up as a great power issue with disastrous results  like mass killings and genocide.

It is very important that as a human being and, more importantly as an aware human being,  one takes responsibility for both these energies – victim and perpetrator – and makes peace with them. Today Kashmir needs healing since all these things are not being acknowledged.  At the same time, the truth is that this place is a great healing energy.

Diana Cooper ( with whom I am certified as an Angel Teacher) had mentioned in one of her sessions that Ascended Master Kuthumi’s retreat is in Kashmir. While I  was moving around different locations in Kashmir, I connected with him almost daily. My silent walks, the time spent by myself around rivers, the people I met and even the times I went shopping at the local shops – all these helped me to learn a lot about victim energies. 

Now it is time to accelerate the evolution of human consciousness and we already have immense support for this. Our first step would be to accept and acknowledge ‘what is’ – the rest is a process with healing to reach upto a level of love and compassion for all.

I have decided to conduct my first retreat in Kashmir, India, in 2023 and am looking forward to the stay, to receive healing and knowledge and learn to be with the flow as the ascension process is already under progress for all of us.

My lovely readers, I hope you have got a new perspective about victim, perpetrator and Kashmir today.

Lots of love and healing.

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Love & relationship: how can couples seek balance?

Read on to know how you can strike a balance and make peace in a troubled
relationship.

The key to establishing a good relationship, in which both partners feel comfortable and
supported, is to know how to maintain balance. If you want to live a happy and stress-free
life, you need a healthy connection. A relationship’s early stages are filled with butterflies,
roses, and quiet moments together. Partners are frequently madly in love with one another,
devoting everything they have to the connection. It doesn’t take long, though, for one spouse to become overwhelmed and burnt out. The truth is that a love relationship is more than just mushy texts, dinner dates and movie nights.

Relationships are often difficult and frightening to understand, especially when writing or advising about them. Well, a lot relies on your perspective and upbringing, both of which have multiple layers of natural ways of dealing with a romantic connection or partnership. Security, protection and someone who will provide are all qualities that women look for in a man. That’s natural, but if the partner (men) can’t manage any of the above, the dynamics alter, and the downward spiral begins with blames and complaints, and it simply keeps piling up.

As I’ve always said, love is unconditional, but relationships require a balance of give and take. To find security in a spouse, my advice is to go within yourself for the source of your insecurity. So that it can be healed, and you don’t have to force your spouse to give you since, as we all know, he has his own problems. The same may be said for providing and protecting. In an ideal world, it would be reasonable to expect these things, but as I often say, your vibration will attract a man for you, and he will not do anything to help you learn your lessons.

So, dear women, go to the source of the problem. Return to your youth and observe what happened; you’ll find the majority of your answers there.

What do men want?

Men desire, or rather require, a woman who essentially serves as a buffer between them and the rest of the world. They already have a lot of pressure to give and be at a certain level of society, so they need some breathing room. If your girlfriend isn’t doing this, it’s time to consider what happened in your childhood, as well as your connection with your mother. Every male will look for a replica of his mother, while every woman will seek out a replica of her father. Yes, you do it, whether you realise it or not. You need to stop doing this so that you can find a fit for yourself instead of settling into a comfortable expectation zone.

Learn how to start a new life afresh. Don’t keep the old because you will never be satisfied with it, because old wounds tend to recur more frequently than joyful memories. It’s all about taking notes.

Fortunately, there is a way to deal with a relationship’s conflicting expectations. For example, the way any two people fold towels will almost certainly differ, but does this mean that one of the methods is incorrect? Obviously not. Expectations with no appreciation leads to nagging, which leads to frustration. Consider the issues you and your partner have battled about. How many of these quarrels are really over something significant? Have any of them come up with a viable solution? The likelihood is that the answer is no. So why not devote your time to something that is both useful and beneficial to the strength and durability of your relationship.

Be honest with yourself and approach your life with wisdom.

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5 Ways to Stay Connected with Your True Self

The most crucial talent you can have is the ability to stay connected with your true self. When you know who you are, you know what you need to do, and there’s no need to seek validation from others. It helps you to avoid a lot of the frustration that comes from wasting time on the wrong things. Yes, life is intended to be full of mistakes, but staying connected with yourself allows you to focus on the great opportunities that life has to offer. You will gain confidence, understand your purpose, and begin to have a greater effect on the world only after you have a better understanding of yourself.

So how can you know how to build that level of connection with yourself? Here are the five ways that are well worth your time to read.

  1. Discover yourself 

The herd mentality is something that most people succumb to. Some people end up doing nothing but following the crowd. Make a list of things you actually enjoy; if something doesn’t thrill you, don’t do it.

  1. Get to the root cause of the problem

Problems, upsets and sadness are lower vibrations; look for the underlying reason and go toward the source, not just the event that brought you there. If you’re feeling low or helpless, go back to the initial memory and identify the source. Treat the root of the problem rather than the symptom.

  1. Love and compassion are the key players

You can’t and won’t connect with yourself unless you take the time to love yourself. We might be harsh with ourselves when we haven’t been able to accomplish something. We are not deserving of the hatred we heap on ourselves. Try to love yourself the most and be compassionate towards everything. The world will be a better place if we are kind and sensitive.

  1. Let go of your past

To go on, you must entirely let go of the past. It will simply keep you stuck, trapping you in a vicious circle. Accept, heal, and do not let the past interfere in the present. However, preserve what you’ve learned in the past and look forward to what the future brings. The past will remain a burden unless you heal from it.

  1. Don’t get influenced easily

Know that you won’t be able to genuinely connect with yourself unless you stop allowing others to influence your emotions. Don’t hand over your power to anyone. Listen to others to learn something new, but don’t be swayed from your intentions. Listen to what they have to say, don’t resist, make an informed decision for yourself, and choose something fresh from a variety of sources.

Only by evaluating yourself and being absolutely honest with yourself will you be able to see every facet of your life, connecting you to your inner soul.

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5 Ways To Make Social Media A Part Of Your Spiritual Journey

We are all more connected than ever before in today’s world. I’m not talking about the spiritual sense of the word. Rather, we are intrinsically tied to our phones and one another via social media.

The way we communicate has changed dramatically as a result of social media. It may, among other things, assist raise awareness for topics that might otherwise go unnoticed. However, we can’t deny the reality that the amount of judgement that people make while looking at a photo triggers them strongly.

Instagram, for example, may feel like a vast pool of noise at times. It’s often background noise that prevents us from connecting with our true selves.  Spirituality is nowhere to be found not even in highly shared Osho and Rumi quotes. Hence, these are the ways to make social media a part of your spiritual journey. Keep reading!

  1. Detach yourself from toxicity

Unfriend or unfollow toxic people from your handle. Continue to spring clean your friend list to ensure that you are not surrounded by toxicity or anything that makes you feel bad. Hence, unfollow individuals who don’t contribute to your practice and don’t have anything to say. Would you attend a yoga session that didn’t make you feel anything?

  1. Don’t indulge yourself in online hate

Protect your energy from unpleasant news, other people’s opinions, and overthinking over them. Don’t take social media news seriously, participate in gossip, judging, trolling, and harassing others, and aimless surfing.

  1. Keep track of the time spent online

Limit the amount of time you spend on social media. Keep track of how much time you spend on social media and use it wisely. Add in the fact that spending too much time on social media can cause anxiety and even depression. Posting, earning likes, comments, and following may become addictive.

  1. Filter the content you watch or read

There’s a lot of information on social media, so learn something new and leave the rest. Choose what you want to gain from it. Keep information and use it, but let go of things that are detrimental to you.

  1. Stay observant online

Analyze each story and see what’s going on within yourself. – Social media posts can frequently elicit an emotional response. Observe, analyse, and take notes on what you observe and how you react to it. These are communications that have a deeper significance for you. Take the time to read what others have to say and to respond when you have something to say when they make you think, when they assist you, and when they offer value to your life. Criticism is encouraged, but only in the form of constructive criticism.

It is the purpose of social media to make you feel wonderful. Make the most of this chance to socialise your spiritual life and practice. Stay away from toxicity and connect with people on a deeper level. It is entirely up to you to decide what you consume. So why not make the best choice for your spirituality? Make the most of your freedom!

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Exchange Of Energies Over Social Media

“It takes discipline to not let social media steal your time.”

–Alexis Ohanian 

Trolls and bullies are everywhere, and they exploit the Internet to hide their identities. Is there anything else they communicate other than their hateful words? They do, in fact, transfer their energy. We are online on social media 24 hours a day, seven days a week in this age of virtual existence. Staying connected is no longer restricted to face-to-face meetings and phone discussions. It also helps to like and comment on one other’s social media posts. So, are you doing anything else? Is it possible that you’re giving and receiving vibes via your social media interactions?

In a few years, social media has become the most significant aspect of our lives since the pandemic has become a part of our existence. A lot was made available to us through social media, but a lot of it also led to depression.

Well, energies are passed on even through ideas, so have you ever considered how you overthink and become depressed after reading certain things or having an online conversation?

Yes, we are always in a state of give and take. We as humans have been through a lot during the pandemic, yet we all know deep down that we deserved it, but have we used it wisely?

Weren’t we addicted to our phones? Chatting online has become an inevitable part of our lifeline.

We all give and take, but do we offer advice to others and seek positivity as well? Social media is a wonderful way to interact with others for networking or knowledge.  Yet, it may be draining at the same time since we are engrossed in it for multiple reasons, and our bodily ability to hear, listen, and think is being exhausted. Overindulgence must be guarded against. Protection for the mind, thoughts, and ability to think. Cutting cords, shielding, using reiki symbols, and bath salts are all techniques that are highly suggested for protection.

It’s time to stop overindulging in things that exhaust you.  Stop giving power to the content you read. Don’t throw up your wisdom simply because you have time to do anything to distract yourself from your loneliness. When you are in your power, use social media carefully.

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7 Areas That Transform Over The Course Of A Lifetime

7 Areas That Transform Over The Course Of A Lifetime

Individuals, organisations, and nations alike must cope with change since it is a reality of existence. Those who can accept this reality and adapt with change will be the ones who survive. Change is inevitable, but how about describing it as transformational? Below listed are the seven areas where an individual experiences a change in the course of a lifetime.

Relationships

For almost all of us, the most important facet of our lives is our relationships. Keep an eye on what’s going on and be conscious of what’s happening. It will reflect your personal adventure ahead. Be open to change in this area and be aware of it – this will help you progress in your life. Your relationship with your lover will strengthen with each transformation.

Health

In today’s world, health is one of the most critical topics. We’ve learned a lot from the pandemic. Our thought process is greatly influenced by our mental health. Physical health serves as a mirror for our attitudes toward ourselves. We can achieve a lot of internal harmony to help us balance things out. What is your body trying to tell you? Make changes and ensure that your parameters are satisfied.

Career

Today’s youth have just one goal: to get a job, but only if they can survive. Few people are out of survival mode and are instead stressed. Is it possible for you to decide a part of your job that you like and flow with? Alternately, combine it with something you enjoy, such as a hobby, meditation, or reading.

Flow of life

Whenever a terrible event occurs in our lives, with that incident, we begin to lose a piece of ourselves. I have made this mistake. This is done by shamans as basically shamans take you on a journey and get all your parts together.

Examine your life to identify where you are stuck. Assemble your pieces and work toward being comprehensive.

Peace and harmony within

When was the last time we experienced peace and harmony? Instead of being reliant on the outside world, work on inner tranquility. Nothing outside of you will ever have an impact on you. Internal change is essential.

Spiritual side of a human being

Humans are spiritual by nature. Simply returning to yourself in its entirety is connecting yourself with your blueprint. Here, transformation entails removing all masks you’ve worn.

Breaking karmic cycles

Countless karmic cycles are currently breaking. Relationships, ideas, beliefs, and concepts are all crucial. This is a tremendous opportunity to improve one’s life. Work on everything that is preventing you from moving forward. You are about to enter a whole new universe.

Going beyond the way you live, co-creating a better life for yourself, and altering the way you live are all part of the transformation process. This can be accomplished via the use of your ideas, visualisation, words, faith, deeds, or a combination of techniques.

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Change is inevitable

Heavy words like transformation, change, acceptance, and being in the flow are all familiar to us. But are these phrases just words to you, or do you know how to go with the flow in life? Change has always been tough for me as a youngster. It wasn’t easy for me to adjust to a new school, a new city, new friends, and a new home. Isn’t it strange? This was spoken by a light worker.

Yes, I was someone who had a hard time accepting things. I’ve never been a supporter of change, and I’ve never been able to go with the flow. So, how did I go through this transformation? With my tale, I’d want to share some insights with you. We all know that the more stubborn we get, the more we put off our personal growth in almost every aspect of our lives.

Being stubborn is a form of self-punishment. Not others . Isn’t this a new understanding? Yes, this was my understanding of letting go of stubbornness and staying open to what needed to change within and externally. I never chased after a carrier. Carrier, when I was a child, I was never sure what I wanted to do with my life. However, going in different ways where I was ready to be in the flow helped me in finding my vision (which I feel I am now following).

Only change can help you adapt to your situations, face your karma, and complete relationships in preparation for a new chapter in your life. Is this a little too philosophical for you? Allow me to explain. When you love someone, you want it to be constant, but does it? Love may evolve, but relationships will continue to reflect everything you don’t want to face again and again. So you either break up, betray, or both.

You must work on internal changes while allowing your partner to change as he or she wants. Once you’ve figured out how to balance the change inside yourself, and you’ve completed a certain amount of good work, you may either stay with your partner or decide whether it’s time for a reality check and a happy closure.

Since the last two years, I’ve observed several karmic relationships come to an end. What exactly is it? It’s a necessary change, and are you ready to close it with wisdom rather than drama? You have a choice. Once again, change in your body is inevitable… Are we truly committed to our bodies and allowing them to age gracefully, or are we torturing them even more? Appropriateness is change. And the mayor’s appropriateness is usually beautiful. Certain issues remain unanswered. As a result, accepting them with faith in your pre-birth decision is healthier for you and the universe. Let go and let God is what we call it. So a quick change of city can teach you anything. Change from being lonely to being alone may help you learn new things, and changing your clothing style can help you gain confidence.

When you allow change to happen with flow and acceptance, there is always a hidden surprise. As I always say, I never saw myself as a coach conducting retreats and helping with karmic healings while working as a dental technician.

Life will always show you the right direction. Be confident in the plans you made before you were born. With your friendship with him, God has a plan.

There will be times in your life when you feel stuck and want to try something new. At that time, the only option is to act.

Change will help you in moving forward and breaking free from the vicious cycle you are now stuck in.

Accept and cherish change.

Then you’ll be in the flow.

Love,
Laii