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Deep Diving Into The Idea Of Mental Well-Being

“Mental health is not a destination, but a process. It’s about how you drive, not where you’re going.” – Noam Shpancer, PhD

What is the definition of well-being? This word is particularly intriguing these days, since we are all concerned about our own and loved ones’ futures. Our lovely mind, which is never stable, creates the whole drama. Yoga helps us to keep our bodies stable. We may nourish our souls via meditation, but what about our wandering minds? Many individuals come to me for help with their wandering minds. Stop wandering, I say. So, how is it possible? It is conceivable. The mind’s natural tendency is to wander, and we can’t stop it. However, we must never allow the mind to control us and force us to do what it desires. Isn’t it simple? Yes, it is very straightforward.

I constantly tell people to focus on the root cause of any problem. And now we’ve arrived at the source of the wandering mind. Childhood problems and traumas are frequently the cause of a swaying mind or a closed mind. We all have a victimised kid inside of us who refuses to listen to the wise self. A lot of what is said here also refers to interior masculine and feminine energies being disrupted. Whatever is on the inside will be reflected on the outside.

So, in order to break free from victimisation, go after the core cause of inner childhood traumas. You can be wounded from the inside, but it is your job to heal.

Understanding the principles of family constellation is critical in determining which parent or situation is to be held accountable. If you’re having problems with men, look into the source of the problem. If you’re insecure about your girlfriend, look for the source of your insecurity.

In general, you are free to make your decisions based on your own free will rather than being pressured by your inner child’s Shakespearean stories. Remember that these are stories, not facts about a scenario. So take pleasure in self-work and strive toward mending your lovely mind. The next stage, of course, is to enlist the aid of the body via yoga (I personally recommend.)

And meditation is the ultimate way to get in touch with your inner self. So, if you’re planning to buy a house, you first clean it before decorating it. Similarly, clean your stories before decorating them for a more peaceful self.

It’s all up to us. Reclaim your power. I have faith in you.

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Existence Of Spirituality In Modern Lifestyle

spirituality and modern lifestyle

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”
― Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, scientist, philosopher and teacher

Many people are intrigued by this topic because they don’t realise that spirituality is simply a natural way of living that is part of our human nature. People frequently ask me why I don’t drink alcohol or why did I give up on non-vegetarian food. Is it because you are a spiritual person? Spirituality is to a great extent affiliated with religion, and in Indian context many people around the world associate spirituality with Hinduism. Spirituality, on the contrary, has nothing to do with religion. All religions, I feel, have their own unique beauty and wisdom. 

Now to get back to my answer when I am questioned about my life choices, I no longer consume alcohol because I don’t feel the need to fill myself with toxicity since there is no void within me. Generally, but not always, when you are addicted to something, it implies that there is a vacuum or void within you. You are attempting to fill it with the addiction. Because of our conditioning, we are made to believe that this void needs to be filled. However, it only needs to be healed. 

Regarding non-vegetarian diet, I realised one day I wanted to quit it and I did so. My body didn’t sense the need for it, and I listened to what it said. I was 17 years old at the time, and I made a decision and adhered to it. Modern lifestyle has nothing against spirituality. Once you begin to align with yourself and the divinity inside and around you, you will be directed to the right actions. That is something I have experienced in life. I just made efforts to align myself, and I began to practice spirituality as a result.

There is another myth about being spiritual. It says that you can control your tears, you don’t get angry and you are all love and light. Being spiritual doesn’t mean you do not feel human emotions. What it really means is that you become more aware of your inner struggles. With all of the self-healing work and meditation that you do as you go down this path, everything within you begins to heal itself. We are always striving to heal our wounded bits for inner child, ancestral history, past life traumas, and collective consciousness baggage. So, it is certain that you will experience lows, upsets, depressed phases, rage, and a long list of other negative emotions during this process. The only difference is that you learn from your tears and don’t cry about the same thing again. At the very least, the seriousness of your frustrations is acknowledged and worked upon. That’s awe-inspiringly spiritual! 

Louis Hay, Waye Dyer, Osho, and Bert Hellinger are among my favourite personalities. Healing and acceptance are the common threads that run through them all. They have taught me how wonderfully simple life can be should one wish for it.

Once you feel yourself yearning for a simple life, you know that you have already reached a spiritual realm.

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Self-healing, an art of inner peace

“Environment is no one’s property to destroy; it’s everyone’s responsibility to protect.” – Mohith Agadi, author and journalist

We might hold nature accountable for the catastrophe we are facing in the world currently but evidently, nature did not create any crisis, we did. We, as humans, have damaged our mother Earth to an extent that nature is now recovering itself and asking a part of us to get healed as well. The pleasures we seek by destroying nature for our own delight call for immediate termination or else Karma has its own ways making us pay for our actions.

Likewise, I believe, there goes a similar pattern for individual healing. Our body has an incredible ability to heal itself, even if we aren’t aware of it. It is, in fact, one of the most vital body processes. Self-healing isn’t just for physical ailments and injuries. It also describes our body’s ability to heal from mental and emotional distress. However, it may require more than just a little push to get it moving. This may necessitate extreme caution in what we do and how we care for ourselves. Keep reading to know how to go about it.

Control your emotions and thoughts

We tend to pile up every good or bad episode, every second and add to our emotional baggage. Sometimes, our interpretations of certain situations make us release those emotions in the form of anger, attack others or become a victim. Stubbornness can turn quite toxic in life and will lead to no good. Instead of exploding emotions and inviting negativity, try to understand the root cause of the internal wound. You won’t be free, until you free yourself from the prison of your false thoughts.

Prioritise loving yourself

We as adults get dominated by our wounded inner child, life traumas and some with a history of unfulfilled love. Self-healing can take place out of love and not anger. Now the question is- what can we do to heal ourselves? We know that love heals, so the first step will be loving ourselves and getting deeper into the trauma we are carrying within and stop blaming ourselves. If it is an inner child issue, it can be addressed and worked on or if it’s a family matter, it can be healed, too.

Forgive and let go

Forgiveness is the most potent tool for learning to let go of our egos and make life simpler. We must learn to forgive those who have wronged us, and most importantly, we must forgive ourselves. Allow ourselves to let go and keep going forward. Forgiveness can clear the way for new happiness by opening the doors to our spirit and removing negativity.

Learn to accept

When we accept ourselves, we finally allow ourselves the freedom to pursue our goals and be who we truly are. We are hardly ourselves, we are the version of what our parents expected us to be. We are our wounds, we are our traumas, we are our pain. We are locked up in the cage of wanting to be someone we are not.

Interestingly, if we do not heal by ourselves, the universe will make us encounter the same emotions with the same or different people, once again. It’s an alarm that we should not choose to ignore. Address the vicious cycle and break the chain. I welcome you all on this path of self-discovery and realisation. Do not hesitate and be yourself.  

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Journey to the Centre of the Self

Journey to the Centre of the Self

Borrowing this title from a famous Jules Verne novel, I aim to bring a certain element of awe to the discovery of your true self. Imagine readers from the 19th century eagerly awaiting the next chapter of a Verne novel in the newspaper to find out his latest creation. Would it be a submarine or a flying machine or a brand new adventure? That is the kind of excitement that I envision in the quest to find one’s true self.

Spiritual strength 

A human is born spiritual and is always spiritual. People often connect spirituality with religion. My understanding of religion is very simple. Human beings created religion to follow some norms for ease in living. Life should be lead on the path of dharm (meaning following prescribed rules of life without deviation). People go against religion or do not follow it due to its strict dictating norms because they understand religion in its conventional format. 

Spirituality essentially has nothing to do with religion but it can definitely explain religion to you in better terms.

Residents of a cosmopolitan city, such as Mumbai, are well-aware of all religions, languages, cultures and festivals. I have imbibed a lot of learning by witnessing this. I learnt this because my base was spirituality.

Finding your true self

My parents are not at all religious. They believe in one supreme power or a creator who has made us all. That’s why when I stepped into the world of spirituality, there was very little that I had to unlearn. 

Spirituality is way of life, wherein we follow a routine that nourishes our soul, keeps our mind stable and body in balance. This is my understanding. So, can a normal way of life be a problem in the practice of spirituality? It shouldn’t be so, right? But it is. We have deviated so much from our original nature as human beings and as spiritual beings that going back to a spiritual way of life seems new to us.

Becoming a spiritual being

Meditation is often regarded as the first step that you need to master on your spiritual path. Meditation is not concentration. If you are concentrating, you are not meditating. It is simply being with your soul and resting. It is a state of absolute nothingness. We are born as nothing, so meditation needs to come to us naturally. But we are conditioned to think too much and pressurise our mind to follow certain things.

When you come back to yourself, you automatically start being connected with nature and imbibing energies from nature. You don’t feel like running away anywhere as you know the entire world is your home.

Practicing different techniques is necessary right now, in order to fine tune ourselves as we have deviated from our original nature. Pranayama, meditation, yoga, reciting mantras or any other practice that connects you to yourself and the divine energy is the right technique for you.

Remember, you are spiritual just like me; you can meditate just like me; and you can smile just like me.