Every relationship that you have ever had, no matter how short lived, is karmic in nature. Unless it’s a twin flame relationship, which is quite a rage these days. But we shall get to that in due course of time. For now, I am going to focus on karmic relationships and the toxicity in some of them that affects us adversely.
It is human nature that you question the relevance or the reason behind something only when it is inconvenient to you. For instance, if you have a ealthy relationship with your father, you will not ask why is it so. However, if your mother ill-treats you or your boss is ruthless towards you, you would immediately want to know why. ‘Why me’ is the most common question asked. You need to start with asking yourself what can you learn from this relationship and what is making you allow the other person to treat you badly. Once you recognise and accept the answers to these questions, you will realise that your relationship has progressed. Either the person will remove himself from your life or you will reach an equilibrium that will allow you to be at peace with his presence. Avoiding them or seeking comforts of that relationship in another are not the solutions. These actions will in fact aggravate the toxicity. It is like treating the symptoms of a disease and not its cause.
Actions and reactions
The toxicity of a karmic relationship would upset you, make you angry or violent and less tolerant towards the person causing it. You might even be able to identify certain triggers that set off due to the other person’s behaviour. By being rude, impolite or verbally or physically abusive, you will only cause the situation to aggravate. Instead, when you delve deeper and try to identify the root cause of why your relationship with a particular person is toxic, you will be able to control your negative reactions and, in the process, heal yourself. Slowly that person will stop having a negative impact on you and you will approach a ‘state of Buddha.’ I reiterate that this is a process; it is not something that you can achieve overnight.
The biggest precaution that you need to take here is not to increase your karmic baggage. Since you are already in a toxic karmic relationship, you know the repercussion of additional baggage. So, aim at learning and growing. Evolving yourself is the only way in which you can break the ring of toxicity in a karmic relationship.
Importance of closures
In karmic relationships, closures – when done rightly and on a happy note – are a beautiful way to move towards the real goal of your life. With closures, you will be able to conclude the karmic business with people who are not adding value to your life and move on to seek the company of your true tribe. As you evolve, you will experience closures with new soul tribes, too. This will be done with absolute happiness and acceptance. While they may not be karmic relationships entirely, but might be a support system for you provided by the Divine to enable you to grow and evolve. These are your spiritual teachers, co-participants, trainees and people you meet during your spiritual trips. At each step, there shall be a closure and a new beginning. When this happens, you would know that you are evolving and doing great. Very few people remain with you forever, in your memories and in life. Closures are important for new beginnings. Choose wisely with whom you wish to continue and with whom you wish to complete your relationship.
I wish you all a happy life journey. Let us all live peacefully together and keep on evolving.
Very well written. Keep learning and growing.