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5 Ways To Make Social Media A Part Of Your Spiritual Journey

We are all more connected than ever before in today’s world. I’m not talking about the spiritual sense of the word. Rather, we are intrinsically tied to our phones and one another via social media.

The way we communicate has changed dramatically as a result of social media. It may, among other things, assist raise awareness for topics that might otherwise go unnoticed. However, we can’t deny the reality that the amount of judgement that people make while looking at a photo triggers them strongly.

Instagram, for example, may feel like a vast pool of noise at times. It’s often background noise that prevents us from connecting with our true selves.  Spirituality is nowhere to be found not even in highly shared Osho and Rumi quotes. Hence, these are the ways to make social media a part of your spiritual journey. Keep reading!

  1. Detach yourself from toxicity

Unfriend or unfollow toxic people from your handle. Continue to spring clean your friend list to ensure that you are not surrounded by toxicity or anything that makes you feel bad. Hence, unfollow individuals who don’t contribute to your practice and don’t have anything to say. Would you attend a yoga session that didn’t make you feel anything?

  1. Don’t indulge yourself in online hate

Protect your energy from unpleasant news, other people’s opinions, and overthinking over them. Don’t take social media news seriously, participate in gossip, judging, trolling, and harassing others, and aimless surfing.

  1. Keep track of the time spent online

Limit the amount of time you spend on social media. Keep track of how much time you spend on social media and use it wisely. Add in the fact that spending too much time on social media can cause anxiety and even depression. Posting, earning likes, comments, and following may become addictive.

  1. Filter the content you watch or read

There’s a lot of information on social media, so learn something new and leave the rest. Choose what you want to gain from it. Keep information and use it, but let go of things that are detrimental to you.

  1. Stay observant online

Analyze each story and see what’s going on within yourself. – Social media posts can frequently elicit an emotional response. Observe, analyse, and take notes on what you observe and how you react to it. These are communications that have a deeper significance for you. Take the time to read what others have to say and to respond when you have something to say when they make you think, when they assist you, and when they offer value to your life. Criticism is encouraged, but only in the form of constructive criticism.

It is the purpose of social media to make you feel wonderful. Make the most of this chance to socialise your spiritual life and practice. Stay away from toxicity and connect with people on a deeper level. It is entirely up to you to decide what you consume. So why not make the best choice for your spirituality? Make the most of your freedom!

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Exchange Of Energies Over Social Media

“It takes discipline to not let social media steal your time.”

–Alexis Ohanian 

Trolls and bullies are everywhere, and they exploit the Internet to hide their identities. Is there anything else they communicate other than their hateful words? They do, in fact, transfer their energy. We are online on social media 24 hours a day, seven days a week in this age of virtual existence. Staying connected is no longer restricted to face-to-face meetings and phone discussions. It also helps to like and comment on one other’s social media posts. So, are you doing anything else? Is it possible that you’re giving and receiving vibes via your social media interactions?

In a few years, social media has become the most significant aspect of our lives since the pandemic has become a part of our existence. A lot was made available to us through social media, but a lot of it also led to depression.

Well, energies are passed on even through ideas, so have you ever considered how you overthink and become depressed after reading certain things or having an online conversation?

Yes, we are always in a state of give and take. We as humans have been through a lot during the pandemic, yet we all know deep down that we deserved it, but have we used it wisely?

Weren’t we addicted to our phones? Chatting online has become an inevitable part of our lifeline.

We all give and take, but do we offer advice to others and seek positivity as well? Social media is a wonderful way to interact with others for networking or knowledge.  Yet, it may be draining at the same time since we are engrossed in it for multiple reasons, and our bodily ability to hear, listen, and think is being exhausted. Overindulgence must be guarded against. Protection for the mind, thoughts, and ability to think. Cutting cords, shielding, using reiki symbols, and bath salts are all techniques that are highly suggested for protection.

It’s time to stop overindulging in things that exhaust you.  Stop giving power to the content you read. Don’t throw up your wisdom simply because you have time to do anything to distract yourself from your loneliness. When you are in your power, use social media carefully.

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7 Areas That Transform Over The Course Of A Lifetime

7 Areas That Transform Over The Course Of A Lifetime

Individuals, organisations, and nations alike must cope with change since it is a reality of existence. Those who can accept this reality and adapt with change will be the ones who survive. Change is inevitable, but how about describing it as transformational? Below listed are the seven areas where an individual experiences a change in the course of a lifetime.

Relationships

For almost all of us, the most important facet of our lives is our relationships. Keep an eye on what’s going on and be conscious of what’s happening. It will reflect your personal adventure ahead. Be open to change in this area and be aware of it – this will help you progress in your life. Your relationship with your lover will strengthen with each transformation.

Health

In today’s world, health is one of the most critical topics. We’ve learned a lot from the pandemic. Our thought process is greatly influenced by our mental health. Physical health serves as a mirror for our attitudes toward ourselves. We can achieve a lot of internal harmony to help us balance things out. What is your body trying to tell you? Make changes and ensure that your parameters are satisfied.

Career

Today’s youth have just one goal: to get a job, but only if they can survive. Few people are out of survival mode and are instead stressed. Is it possible for you to decide a part of your job that you like and flow with? Alternately, combine it with something you enjoy, such as a hobby, meditation, or reading.

Flow of life

Whenever a terrible event occurs in our lives, with that incident, we begin to lose a piece of ourselves. I have made this mistake. This is done by shamans as basically shamans take you on a journey and get all your parts together.

Examine your life to identify where you are stuck. Assemble your pieces and work toward being comprehensive.

Peace and harmony within

When was the last time we experienced peace and harmony? Instead of being reliant on the outside world, work on inner tranquility. Nothing outside of you will ever have an impact on you. Internal change is essential.

Spiritual side of a human being

Humans are spiritual by nature. Simply returning to yourself in its entirety is connecting yourself with your blueprint. Here, transformation entails removing all masks you’ve worn.

Breaking karmic cycles

Countless karmic cycles are currently breaking. Relationships, ideas, beliefs, and concepts are all crucial. This is a tremendous opportunity to improve one’s life. Work on everything that is preventing you from moving forward. You are about to enter a whole new universe.

Going beyond the way you live, co-creating a better life for yourself, and altering the way you live are all part of the transformation process. This can be accomplished via the use of your ideas, visualisation, words, faith, deeds, or a combination of techniques.

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Change is inevitable

Heavy words like transformation, change, acceptance, and being in the flow are all familiar to us. But are these phrases just words to you, or do you know how to go with the flow in life? Change has always been tough for me as a youngster. It wasn’t easy for me to adjust to a new school, a new city, new friends, and a new home. Isn’t it strange? This was spoken by a light worker.

Yes, I was someone who had a hard time accepting things. I’ve never been a supporter of change, and I’ve never been able to go with the flow. So, how did I go through this transformation? With my tale, I’d want to share some insights with you. We all know that the more stubborn we get, the more we put off our personal growth in almost every aspect of our lives.

Being stubborn is a form of self-punishment. Not others . Isn’t this a new understanding? Yes, this was my understanding of letting go of stubbornness and staying open to what needed to change within and externally. I never chased after a carrier. Carrier, when I was a child, I was never sure what I wanted to do with my life. However, going in different ways where I was ready to be in the flow helped me in finding my vision (which I feel I am now following).

Only change can help you adapt to your situations, face your karma, and complete relationships in preparation for a new chapter in your life. Is this a little too philosophical for you? Allow me to explain. When you love someone, you want it to be constant, but does it? Love may evolve, but relationships will continue to reflect everything you don’t want to face again and again. So you either break up, betray, or both.

You must work on internal changes while allowing your partner to change as he or she wants. Once you’ve figured out how to balance the change inside yourself, and you’ve completed a certain amount of good work, you may either stay with your partner or decide whether it’s time for a reality check and a happy closure.

Since the last two years, I’ve observed several karmic relationships come to an end. What exactly is it? It’s a necessary change, and are you ready to close it with wisdom rather than drama? You have a choice. Once again, change in your body is inevitable… Are we truly committed to our bodies and allowing them to age gracefully, or are we torturing them even more? Appropriateness is change. And the mayor’s appropriateness is usually beautiful. Certain issues remain unanswered. As a result, accepting them with faith in your pre-birth decision is healthier for you and the universe. Let go and let God is what we call it. So a quick change of city can teach you anything. Change from being lonely to being alone may help you learn new things, and changing your clothing style can help you gain confidence.

When you allow change to happen with flow and acceptance, there is always a hidden surprise. As I always say, I never saw myself as a coach conducting retreats and helping with karmic healings while working as a dental technician.

Life will always show you the right direction. Be confident in the plans you made before you were born. With your friendship with him, God has a plan.

There will be times in your life when you feel stuck and want to try something new. At that time, the only option is to act.

Change will help you in moving forward and breaking free from the vicious cycle you are now stuck in.

Accept and cherish change.

Then you’ll be in the flow.

Love,
Laii

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Deep Diving Into The Idea Of Mental Well-Being

“Mental health is not a destination, but a process. It’s about how you drive, not where you’re going.” – Noam Shpancer, PhD

What is the definition of well-being? This word is particularly intriguing these days, since we are all concerned about our own and loved ones’ futures. Our lovely mind, which is never stable, creates the whole drama. Yoga helps us to keep our bodies stable. We may nourish our souls via meditation, but what about our wandering minds? Many individuals come to me for help with their wandering minds. Stop wandering, I say. So, how is it possible? It is conceivable. The mind’s natural tendency is to wander, and we can’t stop it. However, we must never allow the mind to control us and force us to do what it desires. Isn’t it simple? Yes, it is very straightforward.

I constantly tell people to focus on the root cause of any problem. And now we’ve arrived at the source of the wandering mind. Childhood problems and traumas are frequently the cause of a swaying mind or a closed mind. We all have a victimised kid inside of us who refuses to listen to the wise self. A lot of what is said here also refers to interior masculine and feminine energies being disrupted. Whatever is on the inside will be reflected on the outside.

So, in order to break free from victimisation, go after the core cause of inner childhood traumas. You can be wounded from the inside, but it is your job to heal.

Understanding the principles of family constellation is critical in determining which parent or situation is to be held accountable. If you’re having problems with men, look into the source of the problem. If you’re insecure about your girlfriend, look for the source of your insecurity.

In general, you are free to make your decisions based on your own free will rather than being pressured by your inner child’s Shakespearean stories. Remember that these are stories, not facts about a scenario. So take pleasure in self-work and strive toward mending your lovely mind. The next stage, of course, is to enlist the aid of the body via yoga (I personally recommend.)

And meditation is the ultimate way to get in touch with your inner self. So, if you’re planning to buy a house, you first clean it before decorating it. Similarly, clean your stories before decorating them for a more peaceful self.

It’s all up to us. Reclaim your power. I have faith in you.

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Existence Of Spirituality In Modern Lifestyle

spirituality and modern lifestyle

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”
― Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, scientist, philosopher and teacher

Many people are intrigued by this topic because they don’t realise that spirituality is simply a natural way of living that is part of our human nature. People frequently ask me why I don’t drink alcohol or why did I give up on non-vegetarian food. Is it because you are a spiritual person? Spirituality is to a great extent affiliated with religion, and in Indian context many people around the world associate spirituality with Hinduism. Spirituality, on the contrary, has nothing to do with religion. All religions, I feel, have their own unique beauty and wisdom. 

Now to get back to my answer when I am questioned about my life choices, I no longer consume alcohol because I don’t feel the need to fill myself with toxicity since there is no void within me. Generally, but not always, when you are addicted to something, it implies that there is a vacuum or void within you. You are attempting to fill it with the addiction. Because of our conditioning, we are made to believe that this void needs to be filled. However, it only needs to be healed. 

Regarding non-vegetarian diet, I realised one day I wanted to quit it and I did so. My body didn’t sense the need for it, and I listened to what it said. I was 17 years old at the time, and I made a decision and adhered to it. Modern lifestyle has nothing against spirituality. Once you begin to align with yourself and the divinity inside and around you, you will be directed to the right actions. That is something I have experienced in life. I just made efforts to align myself, and I began to practice spirituality as a result.

There is another myth about being spiritual. It says that you can control your tears, you don’t get angry and you are all love and light. Being spiritual doesn’t mean you do not feel human emotions. What it really means is that you become more aware of your inner struggles. With all of the self-healing work and meditation that you do as you go down this path, everything within you begins to heal itself. We are always striving to heal our wounded bits for inner child, ancestral history, past life traumas, and collective consciousness baggage. So, it is certain that you will experience lows, upsets, depressed phases, rage, and a long list of other negative emotions during this process. The only difference is that you learn from your tears and don’t cry about the same thing again. At the very least, the seriousness of your frustrations is acknowledged and worked upon. That’s awe-inspiringly spiritual! 

Louis Hay, Waye Dyer, Osho, and Bert Hellinger are among my favourite personalities. Healing and acceptance are the common threads that run through them all. They have taught me how wonderfully simple life can be should one wish for it.

Once you feel yourself yearning for a simple life, you know that you have already reached a spiritual realm.

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Self-healing, an art of inner peace

“Environment is no one’s property to destroy; it’s everyone’s responsibility to protect.” – Mohith Agadi, author and journalist

We might hold nature accountable for the catastrophe we are facing in the world currently but evidently, nature did not create any crisis, we did. We, as humans, have damaged our mother Earth to an extent that nature is now recovering itself and asking a part of us to get healed as well. The pleasures we seek by destroying nature for our own delight call for immediate termination or else Karma has its own ways making us pay for our actions.

Likewise, I believe, there goes a similar pattern for individual healing. Our body has an incredible ability to heal itself, even if we aren’t aware of it. It is, in fact, one of the most vital body processes. Self-healing isn’t just for physical ailments and injuries. It also describes our body’s ability to heal from mental and emotional distress. However, it may require more than just a little push to get it moving. This may necessitate extreme caution in what we do and how we care for ourselves. Keep reading to know how to go about it.

Control your emotions and thoughts

We tend to pile up every good or bad episode, every second and add to our emotional baggage. Sometimes, our interpretations of certain situations make us release those emotions in the form of anger, attack others or become a victim. Stubbornness can turn quite toxic in life and will lead to no good. Instead of exploding emotions and inviting negativity, try to understand the root cause of the internal wound. You won’t be free, until you free yourself from the prison of your false thoughts.

Prioritise loving yourself

We as adults get dominated by our wounded inner child, life traumas and some with a history of unfulfilled love. Self-healing can take place out of love and not anger. Now the question is- what can we do to heal ourselves? We know that love heals, so the first step will be loving ourselves and getting deeper into the trauma we are carrying within and stop blaming ourselves. If it is an inner child issue, it can be addressed and worked on or if it’s a family matter, it can be healed, too.

Forgive and let go

Forgiveness is the most potent tool for learning to let go of our egos and make life simpler. We must learn to forgive those who have wronged us, and most importantly, we must forgive ourselves. Allow ourselves to let go and keep going forward. Forgiveness can clear the way for new happiness by opening the doors to our spirit and removing negativity.

Learn to accept

When we accept ourselves, we finally allow ourselves the freedom to pursue our goals and be who we truly are. We are hardly ourselves, we are the version of what our parents expected us to be. We are our wounds, we are our traumas, we are our pain. We are locked up in the cage of wanting to be someone we are not.

Interestingly, if we do not heal by ourselves, the universe will make us encounter the same emotions with the same or different people, once again. It’s an alarm that we should not choose to ignore. Address the vicious cycle and break the chain. I welcome you all on this path of self-discovery and realisation. Do not hesitate and be yourself.  

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Journey to the Centre of the Self

Journey to the Centre of the Self

Borrowing this title from a famous Jules Verne novel, I aim to bring a certain element of awe to the discovery of your true self. Imagine readers from the 19th century eagerly awaiting the next chapter of a Verne novel in the newspaper to find out his latest creation. Would it be a submarine or a flying machine or a brand new adventure? That is the kind of excitement that I envision in the quest to find one’s true self.

Spiritual strength 

A human is born spiritual and is always spiritual. People often connect spirituality with religion. My understanding of religion is very simple. Human beings created religion to follow some norms for ease in living. Life should be lead on the path of dharm (meaning following prescribed rules of life without deviation). People go against religion or do not follow it due to its strict dictating norms because they understand religion in its conventional format. 

Spirituality essentially has nothing to do with religion but it can definitely explain religion to you in better terms.

Residents of a cosmopolitan city, such as Mumbai, are well-aware of all religions, languages, cultures and festivals. I have imbibed a lot of learning by witnessing this. I learnt this because my base was spirituality.

Finding your true self

My parents are not at all religious. They believe in one supreme power or a creator who has made us all. That’s why when I stepped into the world of spirituality, there was very little that I had to unlearn. 

Spirituality is way of life, wherein we follow a routine that nourishes our soul, keeps our mind stable and body in balance. This is my understanding. So, can a normal way of life be a problem in the practice of spirituality? It shouldn’t be so, right? But it is. We have deviated so much from our original nature as human beings and as spiritual beings that going back to a spiritual way of life seems new to us.

Becoming a spiritual being

Meditation is often regarded as the first step that you need to master on your spiritual path. Meditation is not concentration. If you are concentrating, you are not meditating. It is simply being with your soul and resting. It is a state of absolute nothingness. We are born as nothing, so meditation needs to come to us naturally. But we are conditioned to think too much and pressurise our mind to follow certain things.

When you come back to yourself, you automatically start being connected with nature and imbibing energies from nature. You don’t feel like running away anywhere as you know the entire world is your home.

Practicing different techniques is necessary right now, in order to fine tune ourselves as we have deviated from our original nature. Pranayama, meditation, yoga, reciting mantras or any other practice that connects you to yourself and the divine energy is the right technique for you.

Remember, you are spiritual just like me; you can meditate just like me; and you can smile just like me.

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Looking at self as the centre of the Universe

Self-love is not about being selfish or self-centred. It is about prioritising yourself and treating yourself with the same love and respect that you would give others. Read on to know more about having a healthy relationship with oneself.

Wow, what an interesting topic! Throughout March and April we have explored several important relationships that a human being experiences during his/her lifetime. And now we have arrived at the most crucial relationship of all – the one with yourself. 

As we traversed through the difficult time of the pandemic and the lockdown, we faced issues around mental well-being. This in turn put the spotlight on self-love. Life coaches and light healers have always stressed the importance of self-love. It is the first step toward having a healthy relationship with one’s own self. In this blog post, we will look at this complex relationship at close quarters.

Be there for yourself

Your relationship with yourself is one that you can rely on and trust for sure. I often wonder what makes it so difficult for people to choose themselves over others. What makes them punish themselves by not prioritising their own needs? What is the obsession of sacrificing everything for someone else’s happiness? Well, I have done all of the above and made myself absolutely miserable at different stages of my life. I have always had a haloed sense of responsibility, which made me put my duty before personal happiness. Soon the word ‘duty’ was replaced by ‘people’ in my life. And everyone took precedence over me. My parents, my extended family, my friends – their needs became more urgent than mine. 

When you are travelling by air, the air hostess gives you instructions before the flight takes off. She specifically mentions that in case the oxygen levels in the cabin drops, an oxygen mask will fall from the case above and you are expected to pull it toward you and wear it. Most importantly you have to wear it yourself first before helping your child or neighbour. The logic behind this is simple – unless you are safely breathing yourself, how can you help others breathe? The concept of self-love is similar to this. You have to love and respect yourself before you can do that to others. Whatever you seek outside is already present within you. If you are complete and happy with yourself, you won’t seek attention from others or crave their company to dispel your boredom.

For you, the only person who is totally dependable is yourself, and probably the Divine (if you believe).

I have been a loner since childhood. Like any other human being, I sought the company of others to get rid of this loneliness. I tried to ‘fit in’ with others to fill this void inside me. In this process, I have allowed people to bully and insult me, to the point of ill-treating me. I let them do these things to me because I was not my priority. The day I became the centre of my own universe and realised the power of self-love, no one had the guts to ill-treat me.

Difference between self-love and ego

Self-love is not to be mistaken for ego. Self-love will help you understand your own worth and thereby realise that each human being has his/her worthiness, too. So, if you are freely insulting others under the guise of self-love, understand that it is not. You merely have an exaggerated ego. If you are using the concept of self-love to justify your selfishness and lack of respect for other relationships, this feeling won’t last long. You might end up being sad and lonely.

Just because you have understood the idea of self-love doesn’t mean you are unjust toward people. It is said that when you are in love with yourself, it is a romance for lifetime. You become compassionate towards self and others. It is a state of higher consciousness, which I have always sensed as something that comes only by healing your wounds and shedding the baggage of karma from this life and past lives.

Being my own best friend, spending time alone and priortising myself has become the way of life for me now. I am sure a lot is still in store for my relationship with myself. My dear teacher Dr Newton told me once, “Your journey is from being lonely to be alone.” I finally choose it and life is good.

Today is my father’s birthday. I dedicate this blog to my father – the first man in my life that I have looked up to with unconditional love and the one who taught me self-love and how to have a healthy relationship with myself.

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What are friends for?

The ties of friendship go much deeper than blood relations. What makes us gravitate toward complete strangers and forge the best relationships of our lives with them? Read on to find out.

Friendship is a topic that’s very close to my heart. To me, maximum learning about life has come from this relationship.

What I have understood as friendship is simply a beautiful neutral relationship, which you choose for yourself. You are either born with other relationships (mother and father) or get tied up in them due to family (uncles and aunts) or are geographical in nature (neighbours). But friendship is something you start purely with the intention of establishing a connect with a particular person. It is the first relationship you make outside your social circle. I see it as an anchor that you need when you enter this world full of fixed relationships and unsaid promises.

Friendship amongst equals

Two people can be on the same or different frequencies, and yet friendship can still exist between them and even last a lifetime. But it will crumble if they are not in sync with each other.

I have seen and observed people relying on friendship more than parents, siblings and life partners. What makes this bond so important for people? Well, this is what I mean by being in sync. When two people do anything that it takes to stand and be there for one another, it is true friendship, irrespective of different frequencies and interests.

I personally have struggled with this synchronisation for my entire life. I somehow till today don’t have a friend whom I can call my best friend. Neither am I sure about anyone with whom I can speak my mind and get unconditional acceptance. That’s one area of my life that still requires work. My programming of friendship has been doing whatever it takes for your friend, but time has made me realise that it is just a one way street. I never had equal friendship.

Age, gender, income and family background don’t matter in friendship because in it you are equals. It is a beautiful experience of give and take. When you over-give, your receiving is at stake and this has been my learning. Now looking at my own case, I have always been close to older people or those elder to me. I accept that I have solid healthy boundaries with the majority of people in my life or maybe everyone with learnings related to my old programming of over-giving to friends.

Unfriending people in real life

I have had friends who didn’t bother listening to me and kept on talking. It is important to give space but it is equally important to accept and learn when you drain your energy with such people, whom you have termed as friends. They teach you about toxicity rather than friendship.

When having friends creates a situation of social survival for you, it should ring out like an alarm. It’s time for self-work. Nothing is more important than you, certainly not your so-called friends.

With Inner Child sessions I learnt to be best friends with myself. Today, I have good friends in my life with whom I can share my thoughts and feelings. When I feel as participants in a friendship, we are not equals, or the give and take is askew, I withdraw. There is no point in dragging meaningless relations in the name of friendship. Learn to choose a friend who believes in the dynamics of give and take or equality. The friends you make shows where you are in your life spiritually.